Bantay OCW (Ang Boses ng OFW)

Send home the other woman, not the cheating husband

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Teary eyed Linda, wife of an overseas Filipino worker (OFW) in Saudi Arabia went to Radyo Inquirer recently to seek the assistance of Bantay OCW. She said she could hardly eat or sleep. She had made a shocking discovery when she checked her husband’s Facebook page.

Linda said she could not believe what she saw: There were posts of her husband with another woman in his arms. It was a real struggle for her to even look at the photos, she related. It crossed her mind that she should have been that woman whose arms were clinging to her husband looking happy and contented.

Bantay OCW asked Linda if she knew of any reason her husband would turn his back on her. She admitted they often had fights. She said she was the jealous type. Their normal conversations would usually end up in shouting matches. She often charged her husband of cheating on her. So instead of updating each other on their separate lives, Linda’s husband would hang up the phone.

Her husband did not always call. He explained that he could not call when he was at work because his employer was very strict. Sending text messages during working hours was also not permitted. Linda accused him of spending his time with someone else and just using his work as an alibi. That issue escalated into enormous marital turbulence.

Since then, there were less and less calls from her husband. When she asked why he did not answer any of her calls and texts, he would reply: “Ayoko lang ng away.”

Despite that, Linda was still shocked when she saw the pictures on his social network page.

Linda and her husband do not have any children. Linda said she fears that if the other woman gets pregnant, her husband may leave her. That’s why she asked Bantay OCW for assistance to send the woman back to the Philippines so that she would leave her husband alone.

When asked why she wanted  the woman sent back and not her husband, she answered that she did not want anyone else to benefit from her husband’s income. She wants her husband to stay there and continue working but to stop cheating on her.

We had to tell Linda that Bantay OCW does not have the power to summon anyone home.  It’s not that simple. If overseas workers do not possess proper documents or if they do something illegal, they would have to answer to authorities and face immigration laws in that country.

Also, we cannot propose to an employer  to end a contract and send a worker  home because he or she is  engaged in a relationship outside marriage. Employers could answer that it’s none of their business.

We advised Linda to have a heart-to-heart talk with her husband. They might still be able to resolve their issues.

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Susan Andes, aka Susan K. is on board at Radyo Inquirer 990 dzIQ AM,Monday to Friday 11:00 a.m.-12:00 noon & 12:30-2:00 p.m. with audio/video live streaming: www.dziq.am Studio: 2/F MRP Bldg., Mola St., cor. Pasong Tirad St., Makati City.E-mail: susankbantayocw@yahoo.com/bantayocwfoundation@yahoo.com

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  • gerp

    ang sakit naman ng payo…para bang sinasabing bahala na kayo problema nyo yan hehe…di lang naman OFW nangangaliwa…pati nariyan sa pinas. I am one of OFW, and proud na di ko naisip kumuha ng kaparehas…despite sa pangantyaw ng ibang lahi na kasama ko sa bahay from Honduras, Jamaica, at Columbia di sumagi sa isip ko ang mga bagay na yan. simple lang naman, kaya ako napadpad sa isla ng Cayman Islands…ay para kumita ng pera…at di makakita ng sakit ng ulo. sa totoo lang, ganito sa Cayman…syota nya ngayon, syota na naman ng kanyang kainuman bukas…imagine may asawa yung babae sa pinas…at ganun din yung lalake. I had two relationships isang Canadian and Jamaican both lasts for almost a year (syempre di magkasabay)…pero walang hassle…they both knew I have a family back home and they both respect my status. so maipapayo ko sa lalake na nasa Saudi Arabia, mahirap ang pinay ang maging syota…aangkinin ka ng buo…kawawa pamilya mo tsong na nasa pinas. at sa babaeng na nasa pinas, tiwala lang ang panghawakan mo sa asawa mo…yun lang.

    • gerp

      ngayon nasa saudi na ako…3 years na at araw-araw kami nag-uusap ng wife ko sa skype at sa telepono… isa sa madaling-araw bago ako pumasok, at sa gabi sa pag-uwi ko galing trabaho….para nga akong nagpapari d2… walang alak, walang babae, sugal…bawal kasi.. pero kung gugustuhin ko naman pwede…pero mahirap magsyota ng pinay, kasi lumilipad ang balita sa pinas…kung ibang lahi, dun lilipad sa bansa nila na may syota sila pinoy hehe….kaya hanggang ngayon walang partner sa saudi kasi mga babae d2 kundi nepal, indyana, bengali, syriana, pakistana, at araba…halos lahat nakatakip…mahirap na hehehe pugot ulo… kung pinay…pwede dahil marunong maglaro ng taguan ang pinay…yun nga lang may pakpak at tenga ang balita papuntang pinas…yan ang ayaw ko.

  • gerp

    karagdagang payo… pagtitiwala lang sa iyong asawa ang dapat mong panghawakan sa asawa mo, kahit na makita mo pang iba-iba ang nasa facebook…di rin naman yun ang uuwian ng asawa mo sa pinas…kaya kung pagtiti-wala…tiis lang.

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