Bantay OCW (Ang Boses ng OFW)

Financial support channeled through mistress


Mary Jean, whose husband Rogelio works in Dubai, United Arab Emirates, visited the Bantay OCW program at Radio Inquirer (990 AM) for possible assistance related to the financial support that her husband sends them through his mistress.

Last year, her husband sent them money only twice within a six-month period—P1,700.00 last July 2012 and P700 in October.  Her husband claims he has no accountability to them.

Mary Jean burst into tears while relating her story. She said that even when they were still living together in Davao, her husband had  been having an affair with another woman, so they decided to move to Manila. Mary Jean told Bantay OCW that her husband gets $400 a month as stipulated in his job contract, equivalent to more or less P16, 000. She is seeking legal assistance to be able to secure regular financial support from her OFW husband for their two children, aged two and six years old.

Bantay OCW tried to get Rogelio’s side but our calls were not answered.

Bantay OCW assured Mary Jean that she would be provided legal assistance by the Bantay OCW Legal team headed by Atty. Dante Mercado, Judge Conrado Zumaraga and Atty. Elvin Villanueva regarding this matter.

Forced to marry in UAE

Another OFW spouse,  Wilson Pegollo, was also anxious when he came to Bantay OCW at Radio Inquirer.

According to Wilson, his wife Annalyn was having trouble with her employers in Dubai. She is now working with her third employer.

Annalyn left for the UAE on September 2012 to work as a household service worker. She did not stay long with her first employer.  Annalyn blamed a fellow Filipino domestic worker for passing on negative information about her and destroying her relationship with her first employer. She got a job with a second employer it  lasted only 10 days. Now her third employer has also sent her back to the recruitment agency supposedly after she refused to marry an Indian national who was a relative of her third employer.

Due to the her troubled experiences with different employers, Annalyn seems traumatized with overseas work.  She cries often. She says she wants to go home but is being asked to pay P40,000 to cover her deployment cost.

After obtaining more details about the complaint, Bantay OCW referred the

case to Administrator Hans Leo Cacdac of the Philippine Overseas Employment Administration. She was recruited by the local agency Al-Alamia Labor Supply, which has a counterpart principal agency in Dubai.

Bantay OCW is closely coordinating with Annalyn for the result of an investigation conducted by the Philippine Consulate in Dubai regarding her immediate repatriation.

Reader’s talk back

Here’s a response from a reader to an earlier column entitled “A wake-up call for overseas working moms”( published on Jan. 27).

Hello Susan, I empathize with Sarah’s situation. My eldest sister has 12 children. I helped them all, including some of my sister’s grandchildren, get a college education. Like Baby in your story, two got pregnant while still in college.

Two of my sister’s eldest children are now in the USA. I paid for all their expenses coming to the USA … not to mention for their education there in the Philippines. I was expecting at least one of them to come and help me here in New Jersey.

Do you think they would even answer my phone calls? Such ingratitude.

You are right, our kindness to our own relatives make us slaves to them.  God Bless, Chris.

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  • opinyonlangpo

    Some thinks helping is a form of investment, they should make a signed contract agreement at the start – fully notarized too. Charity does not expect anything in return.

    • shane oy

      remember the utang na loob nating mga pinoy? di tayo kano to stick on contracts.
      tingin ko di naman sya nanghihingi ng sustento sa mga pinag aral nya at ginastusan, kundi some form respect, Or simple say hi to her ask how she is doing, give her some chocolates, visit for once in a while. You know those little things. Kung ako man nakakasama nga naman ng loob na pagkatapos ng lahat lahat ay di ka na lang papansinin. Yeah ingrata.

      • opinyonlangpo

        Must be a cultural difference but the way it was stated, clearly she was expecting one to go work as payback for the help she provided.

    • Tristanism

      So true. People think that charity is an investment. The church thinks that way, so do politicians.

      Our concept of utang na loob is so skewed and endemic that we don’t realize that it is the precursor of graft. Padrino system, utang na loob, I scratch your back you scratch mine. We have to rethink a lot of virtues as a nation.

  • batangpaslit

    $400.00 a month na sahod? that is a slave’s wage.

    • hubert adrian

      ay na shock ka brad? assuming employer covers housing and transportation this is a typical rate in dubai and most are are willing to stay and finish their contracts in the hopes that they will eventually get a better paying job soon after…very sad indeed but i trust they will eventually find a better deal if they can extend their patience and most importantly if the folks back home really know how hard it is. Sa 400 USD na yan di pa kasama food nyan. 

    • opinyonlangpo

      Some even get less than that.

    • manangjuana

      true but that is a lot better than what the guy will get back home.

  • amelius23

    There  is nothing like a free ride even if they are your relatives if you are in U.S. Closed family ties are not a guarantee of financial help not unless they are your parents or siblings.

  • George Lapulapu

    i met an old woman on NYC subway (7 train) to Queens. and Pinay e so nag usap. i asked her how long she’s been in US? she said 21 years. palipat lip at sya ng work, help sa bahay. weekend free sya. 

    and i asked further, sa 21 years ilang bases ka nakauwi. she said..wala.. hindi pa sya nakauwi… and here is what made me feel sad…. hindi sya makauwi (samar daw sya) kasi pinapaaral nya ang mga anak ng anak nya… yung mga anak nya elementary pa lang ng umalis sya..walang trabaho ang tatlo yang sabi nya sean daw kukuha ang pagkain sa apo nya..

    bayani? kanino sya bayani?

    • Andres Bonifacio

      These people, unwittingly, create a family of parasites,,,what do you do with parasites, kill off their oxygen! Stop the remittance! Let them fend for themselves! Lalo na kung mga malalaki na sila! Kung madaming anak, problema ma na sila yon, anak ng anak di naman mapakain at mapaaral!

    • manangjuana

      this is sad.  

  • farmerpo

     ‘Financial support channeled through mistress’

    Sound like the MOOE of the honorables, di ba?

    • coty

      very much so!

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